Blog Posts
How to be lucky
Many people consider themselves to be lucky or unlucky, but there’s no factual basis for this. What does seem to happen, however, is that, to a surprising extent, we create our own luck.
Why don’t I have more willpower?
You may be bemoaning your lack of willpower, but, it seems that willpower has been rather over-rated as a way of creating change in our lives.
My 10 key lessons from the last decade.
The internet seems to be full of posts about what we have all achieved in the last decade. I’ve achieved a few things I’m proud of, but I think it’s more valuable to focus on what I’ve learnt- and often I’ve learnt the most when things have not gone according to plan.
If you think you’re enlightened, spend a week with your family.
The spiritual leader Ram Dass once said, “If you think you’re enlightened, spend a week with your family.” Most of us immediately know what he means. Families have a way of pressing our buttons and bringing out versions of ourselves we thought we’d left behind. At...
Cognitive distortions: Don’t believe everything you think.
Cognitive distortions sound logical and rational, but they are actually a way of keeping ourselves feeling small and bad.
What drives you?
Have you ever felt that different parts of your brain or personality were warring against each other? Part of you really wants to make a change to your business, and another part keeps avoiding or even sabotaging that?
Maybe you really want to start offering a new service or product, but somehow you never quite seem to have the time, or you keep coming up with reasons why it may not work, rather than just giving it a go in a small and manageable way and seeing what happens?
Taking on too much responsibility?
How would it feel to let go of all the responsibility you are carrying for situations you can’t actually control, and for other people?
What could go wrong?
Remember that catastrophising is natural. You may do it more than most, but everyone’s brain is wired to focus on what could go wrong- it’s an evolutionary survival strategy.
How to stop worrying all the time.
If you are aware that you are over-thinking, or even obsessing, it makes you feel bad, and you can’t switch it off or stop worrying, that isn’t problem-solving, it’s ruminating.