Blog Posts
Why you don’t need ‘self-improvement’ to succeed.
Helping people with mindset is a big part of what I do as a business coach for ELT Freelancers. I know that more often than not, what is holding us back is not so much lack of practical business knowledge (important though that is), but confidence, fear of failure (or...
How to escape the second arrow
You can’t really choose what you feel. Not if we’re talking about that lightning fast automatic reaction. That’s part of the wiring we have set up to survive. What we can do, however, is to not take the ball and run with it.
Locus of control and why it’s important.
To what extent do you believe that your fate is in your own hands? If you go for a job interview, do you believe that the result is largely a matter of luck or the interviewer’s mood on the day, or does it depend more heavily on the preparation you did, and of course...
Stepping off the hedonic treadmill.
‘Once I get this new job, earn more money, find a partner, lose a stone, move house…I’ll be so much happier.’ And you are, for a while at least. But somehow the extra happiness doesn’t last, and we start looking for the next thing that will bring us happiness. That’s what is known as the hedonic treadmill.
Inner trolls and outer trolls
The inner troll is that nasty voice in your head that criticises you, whispers that other people will be judging you, and encourages you to give up on your good intentions. We all have one, though some people’s are nastier and louder than others. I’ve written...
What can I give myself right now?
We all know that being kind and generous to others makes us feel good. But how often are we similarly giving and nurturing to ourselves? More often than not we treat ourselves in a way we would never dream of doing to anyone else. When I ask, ‘What can I give myself...
What’s wrong with being a people pleaser?
Maybe you suspect you’re a people pleaser? You find it hard to say no, you rarely put your own needs first, you hate the idea of being disliked or criticised. You’re probably aware that this kind of behaviour often leads to you taking too much on, and being overloaded, but, you might also feel that it’s not so bad, really
You are not your thoughts- this will change everything.
You are not your thoughts. This is such a simple sentence, but believe me when I tell you that it’s pretty much the key to everything.
What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
If there is something that you would really love to do, and you know that it’s fear, not lack of desire, holding you back, then ask yourself if you want to stay trapped by this fear?